BDSM Education

These are some of the works that have informed my BDSM practice as well as a few that are still on my to do list! A lot of these materials may not be directly about BDSM, but rather about the way that power impacts all of our relationships; how people play with power and often abuse it. Some of these resources are heavy on the theory, some are incredibly erotic, and others are more informational “how to’s”.

I will continue to update this list when I have time. I hope you find it useful.

Once a month (or so) I will be picking a text or a movie and talking about it on my OnlyFans. So be sure to subscribe so we can learn together!

BDSM Articles and Academic Journals

“How to Make Yourself a Body Without Organs” from “A Thousand Plateaus” Deleuze & Guattari

“But femsub is broken too! On the normalisation of BDSM and the problem of pleasure”. Alex Dymock. 2012.Download
“To Suffer Pleasure: The Shattering of the Ego as the Psychic Labor of Perverse Sexuality”. Avgi Saketopoulou. 2014.Download
“The Art of Piss”. Tim Dean. 2015. Download
“The Draw to Overwhelm: Consent, Risk, and the Retranslation of Enigma”. Avgi Saketopoulou. 2019.Download
“Masochism, Submission, Surrender – Masochism as Perversion of Surrender”. Emannuel Ghent. 1990.Download
“Unforgetting and Excess, the Re-creation and Re-finding
of Suppressed Sexuality”. Ruth Stein. 2006.Download
“Raw Sex as Limit Experience: A Foucauldian Analysis”. Holmes, et.al. 2006.Download
“Epilogue: Sadomasochism in the Library” from “Cruising the Library: Perversities in the Organization of Knowledge”. Melissa Adler. 2017. Download
“Playing games/playing us: Foucault on sadomasochism”. Bob Plant. 2007.Download
“Littles: Affects and Aesthetics in Sexual Age-Play”. Katrin Tiidenberg and Susanna Paasonen. 2018.Download

Educational BDSM Books

  • “The Bonds of Love” Jessica Benamin
  • “The Sadeian Woman” Angela Carter
  • “Victims, Gender and Jouissance” Victoria Grace
  • “The Color of Kink” Ariane Cruz
  • “Queer BDSM Intimacies: Critical Consent and Pushing Boundaries” Robin Bauer
  • “Sacred Kink” Lee Harrington
  • “The New Bottoming Book” Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
  • “The New Topping Book” Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
  • “Love Not Given Lightly: Profiles from the Edge of Sex” Tina Horn
  • “SM 101” Jay Wiseman
  • “The Ultimate Guide to Bondage” Mistress Couple
  • “Power Circuits: Polyamory in a Power Dynamic” Raven Kaldera
  • “Sadomasochism in Everyday Life: The Dynamics of Power and Powerlessness” Lynn Chancer
  • “Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice” Mark Thompson
  • “Hell on Wheels: Disabled Dominants” Raven Kaldera
  • “The (New and Improved) Loving Dominant” John and Libby Warren
  • “The Color of Kink: Black Women, BDSM, and Pornography” Ariane Cruz
  • “Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink: Educational, Sensual, and Entertaining Essays” Midori
  • “Real Service” Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny
  • “Leathersex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player” Joseph W. Bean
  • “Erotic Slavehood: A Miss Abernathy Omnibus” Christina Abernathy
  • “The Leatherman’s Handbook” Larry Townsend
  • “Concertina: The Life and Loves of a Dominatrix” Susan Winemaker
  • “The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment” Jack Morin
  • “Power Circuits: Polyamoy in a Power Dynamic”
  • “Coming to Power”
  • “Life Leather and the Pursuit of Happiness”
  • “Real Service” Raven Kaldera and  Joshua Tenpenny
  • “The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge” Tristan Taormino and Barbara Carrellas
  • “Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Navigating and Exploring the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” Lee Harrington
  • “Dark Moon Rising: Pagan BDSM and the Ordeal Path” Raven Kaldera
  • “Mastering Mind: Dominants With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction” Raven Kaldera and Del Tashlin
  • “Hell on Wheels: Disabled Dominants” Raven Kaldera
  • “Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships” Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

BDSM Erotica and BDSM Fiction

  • “The Piano Teacher” Elfriede Jelinek
  • “Bad Behavior” Mary Gaitskill
  • “The Story of O” Anne Desclos
  • “Venus in Furs”  Ritter von Leopold Sacher-Masoch 
  • “Tipping the Velvet” Sarah Waters
  • “Bastard Out of Carolina” Dorothy Alison
  • “Erotic Novellas” Sinclaire Sexsmith
  • “Coming to Power: Writing and Graphics on Lesbian S/M (3rd Edition)” SAMOIS
  • “The Second Coming: A Leatherdyke Reader” SAMOIS
  • “Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation” Princess Kali
  • “To Love, To Obey, To Serve: Diary of an Old Guard Slave” V.M. Johnson
  • “Macho Sluts: Erotic Fiction” Pat Califia
  • FIST Zine
  • “The Leather Daddy & The Femme” Carol Queen
  • “The Marketplace” Laura Antoniou
  • “Dark Angels: Lesbian Vampire Stories” Pam Keesey
  • “At Her Feet” Rebekah Weatherspoon
  • “The Best Lesbian Erotica”
  • “The Collectors” by Lesley Gowan
  • “Weekend” by Jane Eaton Hamilton
  • “Kushiel’s Dart” Jacqueline Carey
  • “Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica” edited by Sinclair Sexsmith

BDSM Movies and Films

  • The Night Porter (1974)
  • The Secretary (2002)
  • The Piano Teacher (2001)
  • In the Realm of the Senses (1976)
  • The Story of O (1975)
  • The Duke of Burgundy (2014)
  • Nymphomaniac I (2013)
  • Maîtresse (1976)
  • The Ceremony (2014)
  • Sebastiane (1980)
  • Belle de Jour (1967)
  • Crash (1996)
  • 9 1/2 Weeks (1986)
  • A Dangerous Method (2011)
  • Ilsa, She Wolf of the SS (1975)
  • Lies (거짓말, Gojitmal) (1996)
  • Sick: The Life and Death of Bob Flanagan, Supermasochist (1997)
  • The Image (1975)
  • The Handmaiden (2016)
  • Tipping the Velvet (mini series)
  • Blood Sisters – Documentary

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