Session Feedback.

There is a question on my intake form that asks, “When was the last time you cried?” While all of the answers that I receive are fascinating and revealing, the one that stood out to me the most was a from a genderqueer person who answered the last time they cried was when they were looking for a dominatrix and they were all geared towards submissive men. Since then I’ve taken greater effort to make it clear that I adore playing with folks across the gender spectrum. Recently, I received this session feedback from a sweet non-binary femme which I am sharing below with permission:

“I really enjoyed the session last week. I was anxious going in that the first time had been a fluke somehow and that I’d realize this wasn’t for me, but that definitely wasn’t the case.

It also continues to surprise me how therapeutic I find BDSM. Part of that is definitely the bondage, which is probably my favorite part. I think I personally feel a lot of the time like I need to constrict myself and make myself smaller and not fill up a space, and there was a moment during the session when you told me to allow myself to fill up the space in the ropes while breathing, which has continued to resonate with me. It also helps, I think, to take a feeling and interact with it as a physical sensation and not just an inner one, which is what bondage feels like to me.

The other therapeutic part is definitely the feminization / gender exploration. I find it very anxiety-relieving to be able to explore my gender in a sexual environment without fear of judgment, something which I’ve not gotten to do since coming out and realizing that I was trans. My gender has long been something I worried about when it came to potentially entering into a relationship with someone in the future. Being able to explore that in our sessions has made me less anxious about simple things like the terms I use for my body, and whether they are “acceptable” or not.

I think usually I feel like I have to apologize in some way to people around me for my body and my gender, for not being a cis man. Walking out of the session last week, I felt like I had much more ownership over my body and gender, and I’ve been feeling that way since then. Thank you so much for that, and I really can’t wait for next time!”

Foot worship

One of my favorite compliments I’ve received is when a fellow Domina comments on how stunning and perfect my feet are, and I receive that compliment a lot. At a size 7, my feet are the perfect size to dominate you with. They are incredibly sensitive and sensuous, my feet are an erogenous zone.

My feet are utter and complete perfection and they look divine hovering, teasing over your face as you beg to kiss. There is nothing I love more than training you how to worship my feet exactly how I like it and watching you in ecstatic bliss, burying your face in gratitude in to my feet. The sigh of a sweet foot slut as they inhale deeply at my feet always makes me wet.

Foot slaves are one of my favorites, because they know exactly where they belong, low. A few of my devoted foot sluts have learned the particulars of my desires when it comes to foot rubs and worship and feel pride in bringing me such dear pleasure. My feet are so sensitive that a well trained foot slave might have the pleasure of making me cum, just by properly tending to my feet. I do have a game that I play with a few dear submissives, where if they can make me wet enough, they get to keep my panties as a reward.

As I love Foot Fetish Sessions, here are a few choice tweets of my feet to remind you that I’m more than just a pretty face. Enjoy, darlings.

 

Love Notes

As long as I have been sexually active, I have been aroused by the notion of lovers and play partners putting into words what they find so tantalizing about spending time under my spell. Whether it be through love notes, musical tributes, thank you letters, letters of recommendation or dedications in books, I love to hear how you make concrete the ways that I have affected you. Here are some choice words that have been written about me by some of the lovely folks I allow to serve me.

Here is the full text from my ex-boyfriend/current-cuckbitch:

Dear Potential Lover of Danielle,

Don’t do it.

Please understand, I know that by the time you are reading this letter it is already too late. I don’t really mean to dissuade you. You’ve already decided to sleep with her, and this step is merely a formality before your desires are consummated. But you should at least have an understanding of what you’re getting into.

She is ruination made flesh. She is torment and glory and joy and terror, and she will be your undoing.

You will like it. You will love it. You will be drawn in, like a fly to a spider’s web. And there, at the center of her silken spiral, you will be ruined forever. Nothing will ever compare to the ecstasy and horror that you are about to experience.

It’s not her curves, which are spectacular, or her skin, which is unnervingly smooth. It’s not her pretty face or her bouncy curls or her evil grin. It’s not the way she preens as a (redacted), though if you’re lucky enough to see those then you are truly lucky indeed. It’s not the many ways she can cause pain, or the alternating sharpness and tenderness of her touches.

No, it is the darkness and hunger behind her infinitely black eyes. It is the devious and deadly mind that bends and distorts the world until your core is laid bare and her whims are your only reality. She will show you her universe of delights, and your real world will be always the paler for it.

She will quietly plant ideas in your head, and without knowing it you will slowly bend to her perversions.

In the end, if you’re lucky, you’ll end up as (redacted). If you are less lucky, you will wander the world for the rest of your life, searching for that spark of darkness, for an echo of the girl who was your ruin.

So consider yourself warned. Soon this will be your destiny too. The sweetest kiss is the one followed by the embrace of death.

Best of luck in your destruction,

Bucket

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“A plethora of potential pleasures only previously peripherally pointed to.” – former lover

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Dear Mistress,

Our session was amazing. Thank you for taking me that way. I felt your presence for days. I could see myself drooling for you on my yoga mat. I was so full of juice for you. Thank you for granting me release.

To be on my knees, naked at the end of our session, before your beauty was life affirming. As anxious and agitated as I was at the outset, by the end, my face against your warm, soft tummy, breathing in your essence, my hands on the small of your back, I was free, ensconced in your grace, serene in my being, both surrendering my weapons and sharpening them at the same time. I can’t thank you enough for that moment in time.

In seva,

slave   

P.S. … while it makes me shy to do so, I love to look into your eyes.

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Dear Mistress,

…in short order you’ve opened windows to myself that haunt and excite me. You make me throb. Painfully, wonderfully.

Staccato images- dreaming of more. ¬†Dreaming of something more real and knowing that’s not to be. Through it all frightened by the depths of desire, the depravity of my erotic thoughts. ¬†Where the rabbit hole leads.

My ass, my body- yours.  Possessed by you. Hurt by you. Taken.  Wanting it to both end and continue more.  Strange, right?  I remain pulled to the cuckold role.  The humiliation I think is the draw.  Now as a sissy.  Thoughts of being your sissy.  Dressed as you desire.  Maybe a french maid.  Serving you as you are with your lover.  Maybe he/she is your partner.  Maybe another submissive.  I am beneath you both. Your slave.   

In awe of you,

your devoted whore.

Mistress + boy Staycation in NYC!

Early last month, my darling submissive rented us a room at one of my favorite boutique hotels, for a kinky staycation. He knows that I adore staying in well designed hotels with abundant natural light in New York City and he knows that a happy Mistress means a happy slave. My favorite part of our stay was looking at the Brooklyn Bridge and the NYC skyline with a glass of earthy red in my hand while the sun set and my boots rested on my slut’s back. I also used him as a human tripod and we had an impromptu photoshoot! In the morning I ordered breakfast in bed and had my morning coffee before I let him out of the body bag that I graciously allowed him to sleep in at the foot of my bed.

Miss Victoria Robinson even graced us with her presence for a lunchtime session to round out the trip. Sometimes you don’t even need to leave your darling city for a sweet reboot. Thanks, slave. Until next time.

Professional Domination, Personal Subs and Fulfilling Kinky Relationships.

I get a lot of requests from individuals looking to serve me as a personal submissive. This is not something that I offer to individuals whom I do not know. Serving me in a more personal capacity requires proving your devotion and your dedication. Personal service is a privilege that is earned, and one that is sustained through regular and devoted service, sessions and tribute.

My relationships with submissives are always loving, compassionate and if you serve me regularly, they are often deeply personal for me. The exchange of money for my presence and my attention is a crucial boundary in establishing D/s relationships for me. I am privileged in that I am able to be selective enough to only see submissives whose energy I enjoy toying with. I have a harem of a few devoted submissives and devotees, and that is how I like it. The exchange of money provides me the space to help others explore intensity and vulnerability and to take care of myself so I am able to hold space and guide and train submissives in the capacity that I desire. I am grateful to and humbled by the devoted individuals who provide me with this opportunity to to guide them and attend to their growth and development.

These are the submissives who are able to develop more personal relationships with me. I have subs whose wives send them to me for maintenance, subs who are artists who are working on daily self care practices, and subs who feel unable or uninterested in exploring D/s in primary relationships and seek me out as refuge. My devotees are grateful and understand the importance of tribute in our relationship.

The places that I take submissives in a session are not necessarily places that I would like to go in a personal relationship. The boundaries around a professional relationship become a container with which to hold space for things to be worked through. For me to fill you, pour you out and rebuild you. There is no shame in paying a professional to expertly meet your needs.  While I am not a therapist, I find BDSM to be a healing modality and therapeutic. It is difficult terrain to navigate when a primary partner or friend plays the role of therapist.

That being said, many people want things that I am not able to offer. And while I hope that my musings on the relationship between sex work, professional domination and money may help to normalize and unpack some sitgma and shame some people have around seeing professionals; many people want a primary D/s relationship where most of their sexual needs are being met and that’s okay. It always makes me happy when a submissive of mine is able to advocate for their needs and desires and find ways to integrate kink into their relationships in a way that works for them. Sometimes this means they stop seeing me, and sometimes it means they see me more! Here are some tips that I have seen help people find the types of relationships they are looking for:

  • Let go of attachment to fantasy or fetishes. I know this might seem counter intuitive, but if you are wondering why you’re having no success in finding a partner who is into dressing up as a spider and cuckolding you with her spider prey and that’s the only way you can get off, you are seriously limiting your options. Be open. Don’t top from the bottom.¬†Try to let go of immediate attachment to your fantasies or fetishes and work on establishing open and supportive relationships with people. You don’t need to settle for a partner who isn’t into what you’re into, but you may need to give a partner time to understand your needs and learn to see how exciting it is to make your fantasies a reality. Work on your communication skills and practice articulating your needs in less¬†stressful situations. If good communication is foundational to your relationship, sharing your kinks and fetishes won’t be as scary!¬†In the meantime, consider seeing a professional so you can make sure your needs are being met too!
  • Seek out open partners who get off on other people’s pleasure (or pain!). If you don’t do this yourself, figure out how you feel when prioritizing someone else’s pleasure over yours. Is this something you are able to do? Is it something you can work on? Compassionate, empathic people are often more generous lovers. People often flag for this in more ‚Äėvanilla‚Äô dating profiles as GGG, or open-minded.
  • There is nothing wrong with exploring with a professional. Often times this is a good place to practice asking for what you need and not getting shut down (unless that‚Äôs your thing!) learning to articulate your needs while being supported by an open and empathic professional can clear up a lot of room for¬†growth and potential space to find what you are seeking in a primary partner. Also, a professional relationship with a dominatrix can still be very rewarding and beneficial and in many cases fits or augments an individual‚Äôs needs better than a primary, personal kink relationship.
  • Build community. Make a fetlife account. Engage in online forums, rather than immediately making an ask from an individual. Go to kinky events. Volunteer. Go to a munch. Be quiet. Observe. Don’t expect anyones time. Be gracious and grateful. Watch how people interact. Take your ego out of it. Instead of asking for someone¬†to serve your needs, ask how you can be of service to others. Go somewhere to learn. Take a class. Ask thoughtful questions. Learn about other people’s experiences and interests.
  • Cultivate your interests outside of kink. No one likes a one trick pony. Maintain a healthy work-life balance. Attend to your mental and physical health. Go to lectures, art events, music, shows, dancing. The crowds that attend cultural events are often open-minded and interesting people. Who knows what could happen!

January Travel: West Palm Beach and Los Angeles.

I will be spending some time in West Palm Beach and Los Angeles this January. I will have limited availability and hoping to connect with some like minded kinksters! Please note that I prefer prebookings and longer engagements while I am traveling. I am picky about who I choose to see, so be sure to follow my instructions to make sure that your application stands out. To find out more, click here. To apply to serve, click here.

 

West Palm Beach: January 8-13
Los Angeles: January 17-22

Holiday Wishlist, 2017.

For those of you looking to wow me this holiday season, here is a little insider information as to what objects I have been fetishizing and lusting after recently… (list in priority order).

1. Sticotti Modular Shelving Units G and C

2. 27″ iMac¬†Retina 5K Display 3.5GHz Processor¬†1 or 2TB Storage

3. Black Shearling Naska Biker Jacket by Rick Owens (all black, small)

4. Zana BayneРDiamante Belted Vest (gold hardware) or Bowery Skirt (silver hardware) (small)

5. John Fluvog РCubist Cupcake, black leather boots,  7.5

 

6.¬†Edge O’ Beyond, TSE,¬†Journelle, West Elm,¬†or John Fluvog–¬†¬†$500+ Gift Voucher

7.  Majesty Black РBolero РBlack РSmall

8. Garo Sparo РCustom Corsetted Cat Suit РInquire with me for sizing and instructions

9. Mr. S. Leather –¬†Unlined Leather Hood

10. Axel Whips – Leather (bottom) themed 4′ whip (contact me for specifications)

 

For those looking for a smaller offering, feel free to peruse my amazon cooking, reading, or health and wellness wishlist.

Upstate Leather Daddy Estate with Natasha Gornik.

Natasha Gornik is someone whose work I’ve¬†admired for a few years and earlier in August, I had the opportunity to shoot with her.

I met Natasha¬†on a country street in Upstate New York and we went to visit my friend Bo in the Catskills. He gave us free reign of his luxurious 3-story house and victorian gardens. Bo’s house is full of elegant mahogany tables, leather furniture and beautiful light. Each corner was a treasure trove of luxurious materials and items.

Shooting with Natasha is an exciting and charged experience. During our shoot we talked about how fun it would be to have her document¬†and photo-domme in one of my sessions. Can you imagine this babe capturing all of your dirtiest secrets? Swoon! Contact me if you’re interested and make our dreams a reality.

Here are some of my favorite images from our shoot upstate.

 

 

 

 

Doubles with Mistress Victoria Robinson

Simultaneously nurturing and cruel, Mistress Victoria Robinson and I are a force to be reckoned with.

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Our energy feeds exquisitely off of each other in session and she is one of my favorite women to play with. Luckily for you, we are now seeing eager sluts for training and double sessions in NYC.

Some of our favorite sessions include leather worship, slave training, double mommy play and double-teaming masochists.

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Summer Travel

I will be traveling around quite a bit this summer, primarily for personal pleasure, however I will have a few slots available to meet, play with and train new subs. Advanced noticed is HIGHLY recommended.

La Domaine Esemar, Upstate NY — June 8th-12th: I will be taking solo sessions as well as doubles with my sister, Mistress Couple. All of my nature sluts, this is your opportunity to play outside with the grass beneath your knees and a breeze on your rosy behind. There is also nothing I love more than co topping with Mistress Couple, our energies feed exquisitely off of each other.

Buffalo, NY —¬†June¬†30th¬†& July 1st: Limited Availability

Portland, ME — July 3rd, 4th and 5th: Limited Availability

San Juan, Puerto Rico¬†— July 21st-25th (tentative dates):¬†Limited Availability

Los Angeles, CA — Mid August:¬†(dates TBD) Limited Availability

 

**Please note that for travel engagements outside of La Domaine, I have a 90minute minimum, 50% deposit and 1 week notice requirement. A well worthwhile investment for those eager to be at my feet and put to use.